Should You Stop Going On Dates Once You Start “Dating”? [HE SAID/SHE SAID]

It’s a problem that every dude faces once they actually start “dating” a chick: the end of actual dates. Actually, allow me to rephrase that first part… It’s a problem that every dude faces: dealing with their girlfriends once the lucky lady realizes there won’t be many more dinner or movie dates. So how does a newly-wife’d up bachelor avoid this inevitable headache (besides actually taking her out on the dates)? By trying to find the time while you’re “out” when you can with just the two of you. [lead image via Shutterstock]

Listen homie, I get it. You’re already spending a sh*tload of time with her. Why would you want to tack more time onto that responsibility? Well guess what, you’re dating her. That’s what happens when you date someone. I seriously suggest leaving the relationship if you’re not ready for that little responsibility. Before you pull the plug, though, it’s important to know that she’s not really missing the expensive dinners and/or movies; she’s missing the personal time between the two of you.

Wave goodbye to these nights [via Shutterstock]

I can understand the importance of trying to keep business (your girlfriend) and pleasure (your actual friends) separate, but you need to find a way to get over this hump–it’s the only way that you’re going to be able to stay sane. If you can’t, you’re going to absolutely burn yourself out trying to go out and hang with both parties on different nights.

Once you finally get everyone to play nice and blackout at the same party together, you’re going to need to find the time to pull her aside and spend some “QT” with the little lady. Play on her beer pong team. Take a shot with her. It doesn’t need to be boring time. It just needs to be time away from everyone else. The little short investments you make with her now will avoid a major headache longer on down the road.

I know that this is a somewhat short HS/SS post but I’m a victim of not taking my own advice. I owe the ol’ ball and chain a date to see Magic Mike. These are the kinds of things you get punished with for not taking the time out of your nights.

Long story short, find ways to have fun with your girlfriend even when you’re out with your boys. You can transform “nights out on the town” into “dates” if you’re political about it, thereby completely rerouting your duties to take her out. Regardless, though, you’re still going to need to spend some time chilling with her watching a movie or something every now and then.


4 thoughts on “Should You Stop Going On Dates Once You Start “Dating”? [HE SAID/SHE SAID]”

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  2. A question for the author: if "dating" someone is as much of a colossal pain as you seem to imply by your choice in verbiage, why continue dating them? Why not simply remain single and go on casual dates as you have the time until you find someone with whom you actually enjoy spending time? That way you can go "out with your boys" as much as you want and not have the issue of the "ball-and-chain." Your attitude in this post is that of an extremely immature and misogynistic frat boy, and as such it's not surprising that your relationship is not seemingly a particularly pleasant one.

  3. I agree with you completely. I'm going to refer you to the sentence "I seriously suggest leaving the relationship if you’re not ready for that little responsibility."

    Having been in previously unhealthy relationships, I can say with absolute certainty that there are hundreds of thousands of young men who are currently in this situation. My hope is that they can sack up and just leave.

    As for writing like an immature frat boy, thanks. I'll make sure to shotgun a beer for ya.

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